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10 Inexpensive Date Ideas for New Relationships

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Whether you are spending time with your longtime beau or with a new love on the special day, dating is always part of putting the spark into new relationships.

You may be asking yourself why ideas have to be inexpensive? Great question. Unfortunately, the dollar amount of gifts and dinners has uprooted the opportunity to spend and share quality time together on this commercialized day.

Do you still have an expensive piece of jewelry, teddy bear or article of clothing from an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? You probably no longer value those items, correct?

On the other hand, can you remember that special moment like a conversation over coffee, walk in the park or perfectly timed moment in silence simply appreciating one another?

These are moments that you can’t put a dollar amount on, but we sincerely appreciate and yearn for more of them.

Here is a list of 10 inexpensive date ideas for new relationships. These ideas will hopefully promote conversation, fun and eliminate the superficial value placed on things.

Rent a movie. 

Don’t rent just any movie though. Identify a movie that you have heard your mate mention as a favorite or one they have wanted to see. Create an atmosphere where you cook or cater a special meal and your atmosphere is now set.

Play a sport together. 

You might laugh at this idea, but I’ve heard a number of women express appreciation and pleasure after a day of tennis, golf or even putt-putt. Of course you might have to dress the date up with a neatly packed basket of gourmet sandwiches, wine and dessert for your post-activity enjoyment.

Go ice or rollerskating. 

If you are willing to put down your guards and expose yourself to some potential embarrassment, ice or roller-skating are fun ways to spend time together.

Have a board game night. 

A board game of your choice accompanied by a great meal, wine and cheesecake can allow you to spend quality time together. Playing board games also breaks the monotony of the normal date experience.

Go bowling. 

This is one of my favorites. Bowling allows you to place yourself in a not-so-normal recreational environment. A number of cities offer bowling establishments that are different than one you grew up with. Many have upscale locations that create more social friendly, culturally relevant environments.

Have a day in the park. 

The day in the park alternative is one that is often overlooked, but those who take advantage of them are often greeted with great conversations and the opportunity to learn more about that special person. Hey ladies, if your man is one who lacks communication, these boundary-free environments are usually great at eliminating walls of communication.

Go bicycling. 

Before heading out for a night on the town, get your joint workout in by bicycling across your city. Places like the Silver Comet Trail (Atlanta, GA) provide bike rental shops and a dedicated trail for you to explore together. Take on a 10, 20 or 30-mile ride and then celebrate by visiting a local cafe for breakfast or lunch. This allows you an opportunity to decide whether or not you want to attend a movie or restaurant with live music later in the evening.

Hike a mountain. 

Not for the faint of heart, hiking a mountain provides both a fitness outlet and opportunity to openly communicate throughout the experience. Since a number of people are becoming more health conscious, any opportunity to combine getting fit with quality time is great alternative.

Stage play/Live Performance. 

Stage plays and live performances allow you to get dressed-up and enjoy a day/night of entertainment. Women especially appreciate being able to get dolled-up and enjoy the cultural experience offered by the arts and music.

Go to a driving range. 

With the popularity of golf increasing, more and more people have an increased interest in learning or exploring the game. Taking a date to the driving range allows you to instruct, if you’re good, or learn together if you’re both rookies. It’s fun to learn or at least be goofy while having fun with one another.

Any other ideas on fun, inexpensive dates? Leave a comment below.


This article originally appeared on BlackEnterprise.com by Kenny Pugh, a coach, speaker and Manager of KTP Financial, LLC. He leverages his expertise to help clients improve their businesses, finances and relationships. Kenny Pugh has over 17 years of business experience primarily in the financial services industry. Follow Kenny Pugh on Twitter: @mrkennypugh.

How to Save on Your Grocery Bill

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Everyone wants to save on groceries, but it’s not always obvious how to eat cheaply.

Here are some tips for every type of shopper — and eater.

The number cruncher

If you want to get your costs down as much as possible, consider clipping coupons or using a rebate app to make sure you don’t miss out on deals.

Rebate apps work like high-tech coupons: The app will show you rebates available on certain items. After you buy those items at the grocery store, you can snap a picture of your receipt and your refunds will become available. You can transfer them into a PayPal account.

Related: How to split the tab (without losing friends)

You can also keep costs down by comparison shopping — shopping at different stores for the best price on each item on your list.

“I typically will look at the [store’s] weekly circular online, and depending on what is on sale, that’ll determine what we’re eating that week and whether or not we’ll buy in bulk,” says Anne Marie Ashworth, a certified financial planner with Abacus Planning Group in Columbia, South Carolina.

The healthy eater

It may feel like a challenge, but there are ways to keep your grocery budget in check while still buying healthy foods. For organic produce, check out low-cost grocery stores like Aldi.

To spend less on fruits and vegetables in general, shop according to what’s in season. You can buy seasonal produce in bulk and freeze it for soups or smoothies at a later date. Avoid buying fresh, pre-chopped vegetables, which are often more expensive.

The online shopper

Amazon, Instacart and many local grocery stores offer online food shopping.

Roger Ma, a certified financial planner based in New York, says he uses the online grocery service FreshDirect almost exclusively.

To save money, Ma plans meals around what’s on sale and buys discounted non-perishable items in bulk. He also uses FreshDirect’s DeliveryPass, a flat fee for unlimited deliveries, to keep delivery costs down.

Amazon Prime members are also eligible for free shipping on some orders.

Related: Want To Save More Money? Why You Should Shop Online More Often

The planning averse

Planning ahead is a good way to stick to a budget, but it can be tricky.

Jeana Salman, an LPL Financial Planner with Delta Community Retirement & Investment Services, recommends a meal-planning service called The Fresh 20 to help keep you on track. You can subscribe to different plans: a year-long subscription costs about $74 for access to grocery lists, meal-prep guides and recipes, and a cookbook.

The provider

If you spend a few hundred dollars on groceries each time you shop, you’d likely benefit from a credit card that gives extra cash back for groceries.

The American Express Blue Cash preferred card offers users 6% cash back on up to $6,000 in yearly purchases at U.S. supermarkets. According to American Express, customers who spend $400 at eligible stores per month can earn more than $300 back each year.


Originally appeared on Money.CNN.com and written by @dwbronner

How to Split the Tab Without Losing Friends

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“Whether your friends are open about money or more private with their finances, splitting the bill at dinner can be tricky.” says Laura Sanicola of Money.CNN.com. Check out her tips on How to Split the Tab Without Losing Friends.

Do you have to pay for other people’s drinks if you didn’t order any? Do you chip in for an appetizer you didn’t eat? How do you split tax and tip?

The good news is that mobile payment systems like Venmo and Zelle have made splitting the bill quick and easier than ever.

But they haven’t completely removed all the awkwardness from eating out with friends.

Here are a few ways to avoid looking stingy, overpaying, or ticking anyone else off.

Make decisions beforehand

One of the best ways to avoid confusion (and later, resentment) among your friends is to definitively decide before the meal which way you’re splitting the check.

“Establish who is going to pay the bill up front,” says Jacqueline Whitmore, an etiquette expert. “Don’t whip out a calculator without warning after a meal, because you run the risk of looking cheap.”

Waiters are often more than willing to split the check, Whitmore says, so don’t be embarrassed to inquire before the meal to make things easier on your group and the waitstaff.

Talking about the check beforehand also prevents miscommunication. One friend may have meant to agree to pay the tab, with or without expectation that they will be paid back.

Alternatively, your group of friends be fine with splitting the tab evenly. But the fairest way to avoid conflict is to bring up the subject before the meal, even if it initially feels uncomfortable, she says.

Choose your app

Apps like Venmo and Square Cash make it easy for one person to pick up the tab and everyone else to send them electronic payments for their share. Instead of reminding your friends individually to pay you, you can request a specific amount from each person based on their order.

Other apps like Tab and Plates by Splitwise, which utilize Venmo, have features that allow you to keep track of who paid last, and some even have options for special occasions, like covering the cost of the birthday girl or boy.

“While gifting can be nice, sometimes you don’t want that sort of pressure on a relationship,” says Jonathan Bittner, the CEO of Splitwise. “Our app is designed to help make relationships about what they should be about, and less about money.”

Paying only for what you ordered — particularly down to the cent — used to feel stingy. But the apps help reduce the pressure to round up or kick in a little extra.

If all of your friends agree to use an app, the social stigma disappears. Gabe Savit, the CEO of Tab, says that he is getting requests to make features more granular to keep better track of how splits were done.

“The data is interesting and indicative of how there’s a real desire for people to be as specific as possible with the bill,” Savit says.

According to Plates and Tab, users of all ages and locations are becoming more accustomed to paying for meals with the aid of apps, although demographics tend to skew toward younger people and more urban areas.

Always be considerate

If you know one of your friends is on a limited income, try to avoid putting them in a position where they might have to pay for things they didn’t order. The tactful way to do this is to let that friend decide which way of paying works best before the meal, and sticking to it. They may be more comfortable paying the exact dollar amount they owe instead of splitting a tab evenly.

“I wouldn’t be quibbling with friends over a dollar or two dollars,” says Whitmore.

Conversely, if you’re the one that’s tight on cash, requesting a separate check for yourself at the beginning of the meal can give you an out without forcing you to explain.


This article was written by Laura Sanicola and originally appeared on Money.CNN.com. Follow her on Twitter at @LauraSanicola,

Dear Money … I Love You!

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Dear Money,

I love you.

It took me over 40 years to finally be able to say it out loud without feeling guilty and having an ulterior motive. Literally, all of my life I have been told that loving you is a sin. The problem was that no one taught me how to love you the right way.

I thought I loved you; butm now I realize that I just loved what I could get from you. I never took the time to learn you. Yes, I abused you when I had you and PAID the price as well as endured the consequences when you left me.

I can’t really blame you for leaving me like you did. My arrogance in believing that you wouldn’t … couldn’t leave me made me disrespect and take you granted. It was when you left me, completely and abruptly, that I really realized what I had, could have had and lost in you.

I’m Sorry.

After taking the time to acknowledge and admit the errs of my ways, I promise to treat you with respect. You are a gift from God, so I will spend more time learning about you.

Thank You.

You were there when unexpected financial emergencies arose. God gave me you and you fed, clothed and provided shelter to my family.

So, now I am excited about our future together. I want more of you. I want to share you with my family, friends and those that need you the most.

It’s selfish of me to keep you all to myself; that’s why I give the first and best parts of you to the Creator that sent you to me. I also keep a special portion of you for myself before I share you with the world who tries take all of you from me.

Not sure if you noticed, but I am now extremely apprehensive to give you all away. I’ve just decided to manage our financial relationship better so I can keep more of you to myself.

I want more of you.

I deserve to enjoy you. I deserve the security that you offer. I deserve the lifestyle you can produce. I deserve the nice things you can get. But most importantly, I deserve the peace of mind of knowing that you are there when and where I need you.

“Like the air I breathe, Money comes to me … abundantly and effortlessly.” – Law of Attraction Affirmation

I have to do right by you.

You are very sensitive, Money. So I will be more mindful of what I think and say about you, and especially what I do for and with you.

“Money can’t save you if you won’t save it first.”

Money, I appreciate you giving me another chance. But, even though I am going to work harder to do better, please forgive me if I make more money mistakes in the future.

I’m so excited!

I get so excited when I share your complexities like compound interest, return on investment and credit. I love sharing the security of your long-term financial commitments like investing, college and retirement savings.

I won’t just nickel and dime our time together. Rather, I look forward to receiving you by all of your names: Washington ($1), Lincoln ($5), Hamilton ($10), Jackson ($20), Grant ($50), and of course your most famous name, Benjamin (Franklin – $100).

Let’s be clear…

Anything in excess is a sin. Therefore my love for you is no longer based on lust, greed, envy or laziness. My love for you is now and will always be based on Respect. Respect of your power and reverence of the One who gave you to me.

So, thank you Money for being patient with me and coming back to me. I look forward to a long, abundant, opulent and healthy relationship and life with you.

Love,

Tarra


Do you have a #FinancialLoveLetter to Money? Share it below.

August is Romance Awareness Month!

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Did you know that August is “Romance Awareness Month?” Yeah, me either. But I’m always looking for a reason to talk about Love and Money.

While everyone in the world is complaining about not having enough money or savings, drowning in debt and spending more than they make, I have decided to share “Financial Love Letters” to Money and Credit to evoke the Law of Attraction.

Besides, complaining about the dysfunctional relationship of our finances gives too much energy to the problem. My “Financial Love Letters” will focus on solutions and the joys of having a positive relationship with money and credit.

If you would like to share your #FinancialLoveLetter, send it to info@madammoney.com. I would LOVE to share it with the world. Or, you can tag your posts or pics with #FinancialLoveLetter.

How To Reduce Expenses In Every Budget Category

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If you want to improve your personal finances, whether that means paying off your debts, saving for a house, or starting a retirement fund, the first step is always to get your personal budget under control. By examining and reevaluating your regular expenses, you can cut costs and save more money every month—and now that there are so many free, convenient budgeting apps out there, it’s easier than ever to track your expenditures and eliminate expenses.

The trouble is, too many first-time budgeters end up analyzing, but not changing, their spending habits, or focusing only on one area to improve. If you want to see the best results, you need to make improvements to every category in your personal budget.

These are some of the best ways to eliminate expenses and get your budget under control.

Housing Expenses

Experts recommend that no more than 25 percent of your salary be spent on your rent (or mortgage). If you’re currently paying 25 percent or more, you should consider slashing your costs in one or more of the following ways:

  • Move to a less expensive area. First, consider moving to a less expensive area. Moving may be a hassle, costing you a few hundred dollars in transportation expenses, and putting you further from work and your neighbors, but if the move saves you a few hundred dollars each month, it will be worth it in the long run. Consider downsizing your space as well; many people end up buying more house, or renting more apartment space, than they truly need.
  • Negotiate your rent. Have you considered negotiating with your landlord to lower your rent outright? If you’re a reliable tenant, with a history of on-time rent payments and few, if any, problems, chances are good your landlord will be willing to make some sacrifices to keep you around. Explain that you’re trying to save some money, request a reasonable discount, and you might get the price break you need.
  • Find a roommate. In many situations, it’s entirely legal for renting tenants to sublet their apartments to new tenants; however, you’ll need to secure permission with the landlord ahead of time. If you’re the homeowner, you don’t need to secure any additional permission; just make sure you have a good homeowner’s insurance policy in place to cover you in the event of an accident or injury. This move could instantly slash your housing expenses in half.

Transportation Expenses

The next biggest portion of your budget is likely transportation, including car payments, gas, insurance, and other expenses that get you from point A to point B. Here’s how to control your costs in this area:

  • Refinance your auto loan. First, if you drive a car and you plan on keeping it, consider refinancing your auto loan. You may be able to secure more favorable terms, or a better interest rate, which can instantly save you money in the long term (and might be able to cut your monthly payments drastically, if you choose to extend the loan period).
  • Take public transportation. The American Public Transport Association estimates that switching to public transportation could save the average commuter upwards of $10,000 a year. Imagine what you could do with that extra money. Assuming your city has a solid public transportation network in place, you’ll likely be able to purchase an annual pass for a reasonable amount, and use buses, subways, and other means of transport to get anywhere you need to go.
  • Carpool or bike. If you don’t like the idea of public transportation, or if you want to eliminate expenses even further, consider carpooling to your target destinations or riding your bike. Bicycles are dependent on good weather and reasonable city infrastructure, but they’ll save you thousands of dollars a year—and keep you in good shape at the same time.
  • Rethink your insurance. You’ll also want to rethink your car insurance policy. If you currently have a spouse with a separate policy, consider joining policies. No matter how long you’ve been with your current company, consider shopping around; you never know when a competitor might be willing to offer you a better rate.

Groceries Expense

Depending on the size of your family, you’re likely paying hundreds of dollars per month on groceries, but are you spending that money wisely? Here are some fast ways you can eliminate expenses with your grocery bills:

  • They’re popular for a reason. Some consumers have made entire careers out of “couponing” and teaching others to coupon effectively. The goal is to find the best places for coupons, and redeem those coupons to earn far cheaper groceries and other items than you’d ordinarily be able to find, sometimes scoring freebies or near-freebies in the process. The major downside to this strategy is the amount of time it takes, both in learning how to coupon effectively and to do it on a daily basis.
  • Comparison shop. Get to know your regular buys, and what they go for at your favorite store. Then, head to other stores in the area and get a feel for who offers which items for the least amount of money. It might add a stop or two to your routine, but you’ll end up saving lots of money in the process.
  • Check unit prices. Unit prices tell you how much you’re paying per ounce, or per other unit of food, and can help you make sense of different brands, which may offer very different prices for different sizes. Unit prices are usually listed on the price tag, along with the total price, and as a general rule, the lower unit price is the better bet.
  • Avoid food waste. It’s a simple strategy, but an effective one. When meat and other freezable items are on sale, buy up and keep them frozen until you’re ready to use them. Otherwise, only buy what you need, and make use of every bit of the food you buy. You’ll be amazed how much less food you’ll have to buy when you throw away less of it—cumulatively, Americans throw away more than $165 billion of food every year.

Utilities Category Expense

Most consumers see utilities as an unpreventable expense. While that may be, to some extent, true, that doesn’t mean you can’t take measures to lower your utility costs overall:

  • Make your space more energy efficient. There are some cost-intensive strategies that can make your home more energy efficient, reducing the amount of money you spend on heating and air conditioning, but you don’t have to invest in new windows or redo your entire home’s insulation to see benefits here. Instead, focus on solutions that cost you only a few dollars and a bit of time, such as applying weather stripping around your windows and doors, or applying plastic insulation around your windows in winter time.
  • Lower your utility use. You can also reduce your utility expenses by keeping your thermostat a bit higher in summer and a bit lower in winter, and carefully monitoring how much water you use for things like showering, laundry, and washing dishes. A few lifestyle tweaks here, which you probably won’t even notice, can shave several dollars off your monthly utility bills.

Debt Payments

If you’re working on paying off your debts, you can save money (and pay off your debts faster) with these strategies:

  • Stop the bleeding. First, refuse to take on any more debt. If you have credit cards, commit to reserving them only for emergencies. Avoid any major purchases, such as a home or a car, until your debts are paid off—or at least under control.
  • Renegotiate your interest rates. Most consumers don’t realize that you can renegotiate the interest rates on your credit cards. You won’t always be successful in the attempt, and you might only shave a point or two from your original interest rate, but even a slight improvement here can reduce your monthly payments and make you debt-free sooner.
  • Consolidate your loans. Finally, consider consolidating your loans and debts to one source (the one with the lowest interest rate). You’ll pay less, and you’ll have an easier time managing your payments since they’ll all be going to the same place.

Subscriptions and Entertainment Expenses

Most of your subscription and entertainment costs are wholly unnecessary, so your savings here will come down to how much you’re willing to sacrifice in order to achieve your financial goals. For items that you don’t want to cut out entirely, consider seeking a more budget-friendly alternative; for example, instead of paying a cable bill that costs you more than $60 every month, consider switching to a streaming service that costs $10 or less.

No area of your budget should go neglected; each area may add hundreds of dollars to your expenses every month, so if you manage to cut costs in each area, you’ll end up with far more money leftover at the end of each month. Once you have your introductory budget in place, you can work on other financial goals, including generating more income and putting all that extra money to good use.


This article was written by Serenity Gibbons and originally appeared on DUE.com.